Let's take a look at the windows though

Good story. A family moves into a new home. On the first morning, the wife looks out the window and tells her husband to look at the neighbors spreading dirty laundry. In other words, she is outraged.

The next morning, too... and so on for weeks. But one morning she's startled to see everything suddenly glowing white in the open air, and as she rubs her eyes in disbelief, her husband casually remarks, "Well, it was us, I got up early and washed the windows..." 

Quite often this happens to us, even constantly. We see things obviously not as we should and rarely look for the cause in us. Far be it from me to think that we should constantly wear rose-tinted glasses and jump for joy at everything that comes our way. We've seen enough of these people and quite often we even shun them. But the important thing is to try to look at each thing realistically and with an attempt to "step into the shoes" of the other side.

Ten times out of ten, this helps.